Друзья находятся на jabber.ru и GTalk, а я нахожусь на своем собственном сервере(my_host_name.ru).

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override_global.

override_local.

override_acls.

{loglevel, 5}.

{hosts, ["my_host_name.ru"]}.

{listen,

 [

  {5222, ejabberd_c2s, [

            {certfile, "/etc/ejabberd/ssl.pem"}, starttls,

            {access, c2s},

            {shaper, c2s_shaper},

            {max_stanza_size, 65536}

               ]},

  {5223, ejabberd_c2s, [

              {access, c2s},

              {shaper, c2s_shaper},

              {certfile, "/etc/ejabberd/ssl.pem"}, tls,

              {max_stanza_size, 65536}

                 ]},

  {5269, ejabberd_s2s_in, [

               {shaper, s2s_shaper},

               {max_stanza_size, 131072}

              ]},

  {5280, ejabberd_http, [

             {request_handlers,

              [

               {["http-bind"], mod_http_bind}

              ]},

              http_poll

            ]}

 ]}.

{s2s_use_starttls, optional}.

{s2s_certfile, "/etc/ejabberd/ssl.pem"}.

{auth_method, external}.

{extauth_program, "/etc/ejabberd/auth.pl"}.

{odbc_server, {mysql, "localhost", 3306, "ejabberd", "ejabberd", "*********"}}.

{shaper, normal, {maxrate, 1000}}.

{shaper, fast, {maxrate, 50000}}.

{max_fsm_queue, 1000}.

{acl, admin, {user, "userootname_ejabberd", "my_host_name.ru"}}.

{acl, local, {user_regexp, ""}}.

{access, max_user_sessions, [{10, all}]}.

{access, max_user_offline_messages, [{5000, admin}, {100, all}]}.

{access, local, [{allow, local}]}.

{access, mod_logdb_admin, [{allow, admin}]}.

{access, c2s, [{deny, blocked}, {allow, all}]}.

{access, c2s_shaper, [{none, admin},  {normal, all}]}.

{access, s2s_shaper, [{fast, all}]}.

{access, announce, [{allow, admin}]}.

{access, configure, [{allow, admin}]}.

{access, muc_admin, [{allow, admin}]}.

{access, muc_create, [{allow, all}]}.

{access, muc, [{allow, all}]}.

{access, pubsub_createnode, [{allow, all}]}.

{language, "ru"}.

{modules,

 [

  {mod_adhoc,    []},

  {mod_announce, [{access, announce}]},

  {mod_blocking,[]},

  {mod_caps,     []},

  {mod_configure,[]},

  {mod_disco,    []},

  %%{mod_echo,   [{host, "echo.localhost"}]},

  %%{mod_irc,    []},

  {mod_http_bind, []},

  {mod_last_odbc,     []},

  {mod_muc,      [

          %%{host, "conference.@HOST@"},

          {access, muc},

          {access_create, muc_create},

          {access_persistent, muc_create},

          {access_admin, muc_admin}

         ]},

  %%{mod_muc_log,[]},

  {mod_offline_odbc,  [{access_max_user_messages, max_user_offline_messages}]},

  %%{mod_ping,  [{send_pings, true}, {ping_interval, 240}, {timeout_action, kill}]},  

  {mod_ping,  []},

  %%{mod_pres_counter,[{count, 5}, {interval, 60}]},

  {mod_privacy_odbc,  []},

  {mod_private_odbc,  []},

  %%{mod_proxy65,[]},

  {mod_pubsub_odbc,   [

          {access_createnode, pubsub_createnode},

          {ignore_pep_from_offline, false},

          {last_item_cache, false},

          {max_items_node, 1000000},

          {plugins, ["flat_odbc", "hometree_odbc", "pep_odbc"]}

         ]},

  {mod_roster_odbc,   []},

  %%{mod_service_log,[]},

%  {mod_shared_roster,[]},

  {mod_stats,    []},

  {mod_time,     []},

  {mod_vcard_odbc,    []},

  {mod_logdb, [

    {dbs, [

        {mysql5, [

        {user, "userootname_sql"},

        {password, "**********"},

        {server, "localhost"},

        {port, 3306},

        {db, "logdb"}

    ]}]}, 

    {vhosts, [{"my_host_name.ru", mysql5}]}

  ]},

  {mod_version,  []}

 ]}.

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